Whatcha Think?
When I first moved to SF, I tried yahoo personals and it didn't yield much (apart from a good guy friend). But this little article is interesting. You gotta love Sepiamutiny sometimes...
Any experiences, opinions, stories?
Labels: love in sf, musings
posted by brown sugar @ 11:45 AM
6 Comments:
At Thu Jun 07, 04:31:00 PM PDT ,
IslandGirl said...
I could've written that story! My dating history is pretty similar.
My first phone conversation with my (desi) bf lasted for hours and a lot of it was "No way, me too!" It was weird (not in a bad way) to go from first call small talk (what I was used to) to I totally get what he's talking about and being able to relate on a whole new level.
At Fri Jun 08, 01:50:00 PM PDT ,
Anonymous said...
Sigh. Yes. Too close to home right now.
At Wed Jun 13, 10:58:00 AM PDT ,
Chee Chee Chai said...
yeah i could have written that story as well. i was totally against dating desi...then i met hubster.
At Thu Jun 14, 10:30:00 AM PDT ,
brown sugar said...
island girl:
Thanks for sharing! Isn't that wonderful when that happens, when you can relate almost instaneously to someone. It's happened twice in my life, but I still remember that surge of relatability. Too bad it didn't work out...whole other post.
tamasha:
Yeah, I can empathize to an extent-kinda confused about something right now, too. This article was pretty timely.
bengali chick:
Isn't that weird when that happens? I've heard plenty of stories like that. For me, strangely enough, my last two boyfriends were desi, but we were still soo different. I had a fling with an African-American man and we just had so much in common. Nevertheless, I still hold out hope for a desi partner so I can have that common connection. But who knows at this point...
At Thu Jun 14, 10:30:00 AM PDT ,
Ganesh said...
i grew up in areas that were almost completely white (kentucky, my area of new jersey, and seattle), and consequently, until moving to nyc, most of my girlfriends have been white. here, i almost exclusively dated desis, and i agree with the sentiments of the article; there was a sense of connection, of not having to explain cultural terms, etc.. my friends and i jokingly call this "dating on the reservation".
the current gf is chinese-american, as gorgeous, funny and brilliant a woman as i've ever known. she's in an adjacent reservation, we joke, just not the one i'm in but a reservation nonetheless. i could never imagine dating someone white these days, but someone who's a minority can also share the same perspective as me about how racial politics in the US. she may not know the difference between a guy named patel and a guy with the last name of gopalkrishna, but she knows what it's like to be marginalized, which is something we can bond over.
oh well...a conversation for another day.
At Thu Jun 14, 10:53:00 AM PDT ,
Anonymous said...
to play devil's advocate, baring someone who is not capable of understanding, the experience of being asian american, its out there among pretty much all americans as to what we go through, no? i sort of think that commonality thing can be over-rated, in that its not enough to push a relationship over the hump. its nice when its an add-on but its not enough by itself. this is probably obvious to y'all
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